I'm about 50-50, emotionally, and 25-75 physically.
Showing posts with label LGBT. Show all posts
Showing posts with label LGBT. Show all posts
14 October 2010
The Klein Sexual Orientation Grid
Fascinating. I mean, really, fascinating!
I'm about 50-50, emotionally, and 25-75 physically.
I'm about 50-50, emotionally, and 25-75 physically.
21 December 2009
Homophobe Parent Behaves Like An Ass
Parent Files Complaint Against Gay Teacher for Corrupting Child's Innocence
What did the teacher do? Why, she announced to her class that she was getting married to another woman! And this asshat "parent" made a big fucking deal over it.
Why not just be happy for the woman? She's getting married to the one she loves, which is a beautiful thing!
But some people just can't wrap their heads around the idea that love isn't restricted to people of the opposite sex. (Or, thinking of a triad I know, solely the cisgendered.*)
I don't get what the big deal is over gay marriage. We're people, we live, we love, we want to formally declare that love -- JUST LIKE YOU. "Civil unions" won't cut it; I seem to recall a time when "separate but equal" was applied to another group of people, and that didn't work out well at all. Civil rights are for ALL people, regardless of color, gender, sexual orientation, or any other arbitrary division you can think of.
*cisgendered -- this is the term for people who are not transgendered, that is, our physical gender and our mental gender match up.
What did the teacher do? Why, she announced to her class that she was getting married to another woman! And this asshat "parent" made a big fucking deal over it.
Why not just be happy for the woman? She's getting married to the one she loves, which is a beautiful thing!
But some people just can't wrap their heads around the idea that love isn't restricted to people of the opposite sex. (Or, thinking of a triad I know, solely the cisgendered.*)
I don't get what the big deal is over gay marriage. We're people, we live, we love, we want to formally declare that love -- JUST LIKE YOU. "Civil unions" won't cut it; I seem to recall a time when "separate but equal" was applied to another group of people, and that didn't work out well at all. Civil rights are for ALL people, regardless of color, gender, sexual orientation, or any other arbitrary division you can think of.
*cisgendered -- this is the term for people who are not transgendered, that is, our physical gender and our mental gender match up.
10 December 2009
Go Team Maddow!
PZ Myers covered Rachel Maddow's complete evisceration of "ex-gay" Richard Cohen and his "de-conversion" bullshit. (PHARYNGULA)
Having watched it three times last night, I couldn't stop giggling at his lunacy. Sexual orientation, while fluid to a degree, isn't exactly something you can change.
I'm bisexual. Men, women, I find them both attractive. But I lean towards the "straight" end of the spectrum, with a definite preference for the Y-chromosome set. Come to think of it, a true 50-50 bisexual is a rare thing, most of us "lean" towards one end or the other. So, yeah, sexuality, for me, is a fluid concept, as is gender; I don't see the need to single out the LGBT crowd for "you, you're different, you're BAD" treatment, because it's all just a variation on the themes of sex and gender.
Likewise, sex isn't about which parts are going where -- it's about bonding with your partner, and having fun, and feeling good. It's something that should be enjoyed, not shut away as "dirty" or "obscene".
Having watched it three times last night, I couldn't stop giggling at his lunacy. Sexual orientation, while fluid to a degree, isn't exactly something you can change.
I'm bisexual. Men, women, I find them both attractive. But I lean towards the "straight" end of the spectrum, with a definite preference for the Y-chromosome set. Come to think of it, a true 50-50 bisexual is a rare thing, most of us "lean" towards one end or the other. So, yeah, sexuality, for me, is a fluid concept, as is gender; I don't see the need to single out the LGBT crowd for "you, you're different, you're BAD" treatment, because it's all just a variation on the themes of sex and gender.
Likewise, sex isn't about which parts are going where -- it's about bonding with your partner, and having fun, and feeling good. It's something that should be enjoyed, not shut away as "dirty" or "obscene".
09 December 2009
08 November 2009
"Because She Needed It"
I just read an excellent, if disturbing, article over at Box Turtle Bulletin -- "Because She Needed It"
In short, a man was fired for harassing a fellow employee, who happens to be a lesbian, over her mentioning her engagement (and upcoming marriage) to her partner.
He told her that her lifestyle* is "deviant", among other things.
The irony, the sick twist in this, is that he was in charge of making sure the company's non-discrimination policy was upheld.
So the company fires him for, basically, being a dick towards his co-worker. And now he's claiming he was fired because, get this, he's a Christian, and "she needed to hear that her 'lifestyle' is 'deviant' and 'sinful'." *snicker*
I don't understand this.
Why did she "need" to hear that she's "deviant"? Or that she's a "sinner"? Or any of the ever-growing number of insults and slurs often used against LGBTs?
Why couldn't he just be happy for her, congratulate her on her engagement, and move on?
Why did he feel compelled to insult and belittle her, over something so trivial as who she was marrying?
For that matter, why do Christians feel the need to constantly (over)share their religion?
This is America. You can't sneeze without hitting a Bible. We've ALL heard the spiel already -- Son of gawd, died fer yer sins, repent, DELIVERANCE! -- and for those of us who've rejected it in favor of other religions, or for no religion at all, it gets old. Fast.
No other religion pushes as hard as Christianity. Sure, you'll sometimes see Hare Krishnas, or what have you, but 99% of the time, when you get proselytized at, it's some flavor of Christianity. (Most likely Evangelical, Mormon, or JW. They can be fun to play with.) I've never been approached by a Muslim and asked if I've found Allah. Never had a Jew try to convert me to Judaism. Never met a pagan or witch of any flavor (or either Path) who tried to recruit me. The few Satanists I know (online)... no pressure there.
But Christians! Ah! No, they HAVE to make everything about Christ. Most Christians are cool, really, but I seem to run into mostly the pushy obnoxious fundamentalist types. I've been told (with a straight face, no less) that "GOD will give you new legs." (I distinctly remember being too stunned to make a witty reply.) I've been told that my disability is a result of sin -- mine, my parents', my birth-parents', my grandparents' (both real and, uh, genetic). The hell is this shit?
I, uh, I should get back to what I was saying before I went on a tangent/rant, there.
So, yeah, Christian douchebag is fired for being a bigoted dick. Files a lawsuit. Claims that his lesbian co-worker "needed" to hear that her "lifestyle" is "deviant", and that he was fired over his religion. For fuck's sake, he's the goddamn MANAGER IN CHARGE OF ENFORCING THE COMPANY ANTI-DISCRIMINATION POLICY! You think he'd have KNOWN that he was breaking the rules. Of course, he's a Christian, so he gets a free pass on obnoxious, annoying, and even illegal behavior.... *eyeroll* He's "not perfect, just forgiven."
Overhearing normal conversations about his co-worker's upcoming wedding is somehow "forcing" her "homosexual lifestyle" "down his throat."
But when he deliberately seeks her out and goes all Jesus-junkie, calls her a "deviant", and so on, it's just "sharing the good news."
Can someone PLEASE explain this godawful hypocrisy to me?
The other thing I wanted to riff on, here, was the title. "Because she needed it." Those are four words that I don't ever want to hear again. It's nothing more than an idiotic deflect-the-blame dick move. Every abuser has used it. "I hit her because she needed hitting." Yeah. It was a trigger. I did a *shudder-twitch-gag* when I read it.
Nobody needs to be abused. Verbally, emotionally, mentally, or physically. What this man did was not only against company policy, but it was abuse. The company was right to fire him, and I think charges should be brought against this asshole.
Religion is NOT an excuse (or free pass) for bigotry, hate, or abuse, and I'm tired of seeing it used as such.
* There is no such thing as a "homosexual lifestyle". It's not a choice. And it certainly isn't "deviant".
In short, a man was fired for harassing a fellow employee, who happens to be a lesbian, over her mentioning her engagement (and upcoming marriage) to her partner.
He told her that her lifestyle* is "deviant", among other things.
The irony, the sick twist in this, is that he was in charge of making sure the company's non-discrimination policy was upheld.
So the company fires him for, basically, being a dick towards his co-worker. And now he's claiming he was fired because, get this, he's a Christian, and "she needed to hear that her 'lifestyle' is 'deviant' and 'sinful'." *snicker*
I don't understand this.
Why did she "need" to hear that she's "deviant"? Or that she's a "sinner"? Or any of the ever-growing number of insults and slurs often used against LGBTs?
Why couldn't he just be happy for her, congratulate her on her engagement, and move on?
Why did he feel compelled to insult and belittle her, over something so trivial as who she was marrying?
For that matter, why do Christians feel the need to constantly (over)share their religion?
This is America. You can't sneeze without hitting a Bible. We've ALL heard the spiel already -- Son of gawd, died fer yer sins, repent, DELIVERANCE! -- and for those of us who've rejected it in favor of other religions, or for no religion at all, it gets old. Fast.
No other religion pushes as hard as Christianity. Sure, you'll sometimes see Hare Krishnas, or what have you, but 99% of the time, when you get proselytized at, it's some flavor of Christianity. (Most likely Evangelical, Mormon, or JW. They can be fun to play with.) I've never been approached by a Muslim and asked if I've found Allah. Never had a Jew try to convert me to Judaism. Never met a pagan or witch of any flavor (or either Path) who tried to recruit me. The few Satanists I know (online)... no pressure there.
But Christians! Ah! No, they HAVE to make everything about Christ. Most Christians are cool, really, but I seem to run into mostly the pushy obnoxious fundamentalist types. I've been told (with a straight face, no less) that "GOD will give you new legs." (I distinctly remember being too stunned to make a witty reply.) I've been told that my disability is a result of sin -- mine, my parents', my birth-parents', my grandparents' (both real and, uh, genetic). The hell is this shit?
I, uh, I should get back to what I was saying before I went on a tangent/rant, there.
So, yeah, Christian douchebag is fired for being a bigoted dick. Files a lawsuit. Claims that his lesbian co-worker "needed" to hear that her "lifestyle" is "deviant", and that he was fired over his religion. For fuck's sake, he's the goddamn MANAGER IN CHARGE OF ENFORCING THE COMPANY ANTI-DISCRIMINATION POLICY! You think he'd have KNOWN that he was breaking the rules. Of course, he's a Christian, so he gets a free pass on obnoxious, annoying, and even illegal behavior.... *eyeroll* He's "not perfect, just forgiven."
Overhearing normal conversations about his co-worker's upcoming wedding is somehow "forcing" her "homosexual lifestyle" "down his throat."
But when he deliberately seeks her out and goes all Jesus-junkie, calls her a "deviant", and so on, it's just "sharing the good news."
Can someone PLEASE explain this godawful hypocrisy to me?
The other thing I wanted to riff on, here, was the title. "Because she needed it." Those are four words that I don't ever want to hear again. It's nothing more than an idiotic deflect-the-blame dick move. Every abuser has used it. "I hit her because she needed hitting." Yeah. It was a trigger. I did a *shudder-twitch-gag* when I read it.
Nobody needs to be abused. Verbally, emotionally, mentally, or physically. What this man did was not only against company policy, but it was abuse. The company was right to fire him, and I think charges should be brought against this asshole.
Religion is NOT an excuse (or free pass) for bigotry, hate, or abuse, and I'm tired of seeing it used as such.
* There is no such thing as a "homosexual lifestyle". It's not a choice. And it certainly isn't "deviant".
19 September 2009
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