30 January 2010

Life is Interesting, Part Two

So you'll remember I posted about Ian a while back. And if you follow my facebook you'll know we're together. Yes, as in "in a serious relationship". Well, what you don't know is that there's a huge history here.

I am completely head-over-heels for him. And I have been for 12 years, most of which was spent in total denial. (Go, me.)

And I've been thinking. I'm not one to ascribe things to "fate" or "destiny". I prefer logical explanations, hell, I'll even accept "coincidence" over "meant to be". But this? This is way too perfect to be anything but fate or destiny. And that kinda scares me.

Okay. It really scares me.

Not because he's, like, perfect for me. Not because this is moving kinda fast. And not because the pieces are all falling in to place.

But because I'm actually feeling something. Well... other than numb, that is. I'm feeling things I haven't felt in a very long time -- since before The Jackass, actually. And it scares the living hell out of me that I'm capable of this depth of emotion.

Total love and acceptance. Not only am I feeling this way, he's... very much loving and accepting of me as I am.

Why does this scare me so much?

After dealing with The Jackass, and the abuse, after everything I've seen, why does this scare me?

26 January 2010

Rape victim receives 101 lashes for becoming pregnant

Rape victim receives 101 lashes for becoming pregnant

I am upset. I literally had to wait for hours to stop shaking in rage after reading about this. And I'd really really like to hurt the people who imposed this disgusting sentence on a 16 year old girl.

First off, she didn't have a choice in being raped. She's the victim, here. No. She's a survivor.

Second, she didn't choose to be ovulating at (or near) the time of the rape. And she certainly didn't choose for the zygote to implant! (Non-medical version: She didn't choose to get pregnant.) This is adding insult to injury. And she doesn't have the options we have here in the U.S. -- abortion is illegal in Bangladesh. I don't know about the status of any adoption laws there.

And now? Now she's being punished for being a victim. Because she not only dared to get herself raped, she got pregnant.

This is... barbaric. This is not only wrong, it's ... beyond wrong. It's so fundamentally vile and anti-human that, in the 21st century, women are still blamed for the actions of men who choose not to control themselves. How is it possible, that with all the technology at our fingertips, there are still places in the world where backwards, bronze-age ideas of "morality" are still part of the law?

I'm going to go cry, now.

EDIT: I'm having a formatting FAIL, and trying to fix it.

EDIT 2: Fixed it.

24 January 2010

RANT: What the hell are these people THINKING?

Woman Claims She Was "Sterilized Against [her] Will"

Nine kids, on SSI, her mother has custody of three of the little crotch-monkeys, and this woman is bitching about how she wants MOAR KIDS and the hospital allegedly sterilized her against her will

First off, she has nine -- NINE -- children, each with different fathers.

Secondly, Non-Hodgkins Lymphoma? Not a disability. GET A JOB.

Third, the relevant documents (consent forms) are conveniently "missing". (They were sent to her previous lawyer, apparently, and then went "poof".) I suspect she got hold of them somehow, and destroyed them.

Fourth, we have the minor detail that she had previously sued a spermicide company because she got pregnant. Now I'm confused -- suing because you got pregnant, and now suing because you can't? This is NOT adding up.

Fifth... Look, I'm all for reproductive rights, but what about a little responsibility, here? This woman has proven, time and again, that she is NOT responsible enough to be a parent, that she has no desire to do anything for the kids, they're just cash-cows to her. More kids? She gets more money.

THIS is why I support the idea of parenting licenses. Anyone who wishes to be a parent should have to pass a rigorous exam testing their parenting skills, patience, intelligence, should meet a minimal income/resource* requirement, and for the love of all that is sacred, they should have to prove that they can RAISE the kid.

I have chosen to be child-free because I know I'm not responsible enough, I'm not financially secure, I can't provide physically or emotionally for a child. Nor do I have the patience to be a parent. I have made the intelligent choice, to NOT BREED, instead of popping out fuck-trophies just because I have a uterus and ovaries.

Seriously, people, THINK before you BREED! Is the world really better off because you shat out another "precious snowflake"?

And while I'm on the topic of "precious snowflakes" what the HELL is wrong with some people? Traditional names, great. Ethnic names, totally awesome. Names with religious significance? Sure! I'll even take hippy-dippy names like Moonbeam -- they're pretty, and many times fit the personality of the kid.

But this idiotic trend of "unique" names has GOT to go. NOW. If I see one more "Brytynnyye" or "Jaydynn" or some nonsensical shit like, "Le-a" (hint: the dash is not silent, it's seriously pronounced "ledasha") I'm gonna flip. Just give your kids nice, normal names, and save them a lot of trauma in school. I guarantee that little "Diammond Sparckle Zedekeyah Lilly Ann Martin" (see linked article) is going to be thoroughly traumatized, if only by constantly having to correct others on spelling. Hell, I'll bet a 20-sack (2 grams) of cannabis that, in 18 years, she's working at a strip club, thanks to her idiot parents and their habit of giving their kids yooneek naymez. While I'm on the topic, I'd also like to note that inner-city blacks** need to stop making up names like "Daejwan" and that adding "La", "Da", or "Ta" to the start of an existing name just screams, "poor inner-city ghetto trash" -- your kids are not getting employed with names like that. (And we're all wondering why crime is so high... CONNECT THE FUCKING DOTS! -- "black-sounding" name = NO JOB = higher crime.)

*By which I mean, not money, but a reliable support system (i.e. grandparents, friends, other family members willing to baby sit or otherwise help out with the kid) so the prospective parent can continue to work and provide for the future child.

**I'm tired of seeing people throw their lives away like this. It's entirely unnecessary, and just serves to further stigmatize the community they live in. Take some fucking PRIDE in yourself, and CLEAN UP YOUR SHIT.

EDIT: For more shits and giggles over horrible names, check out Baby's Named a Bad, Bad Thing - I'm in stitches over here!

21 January 2010

19 January 2010

Things are Getting Interesting

Years ago when I was a kid, I went to a camp for disabled kids, and made friends there. One of those friends recently contacted me thru, and just happens to be the one guy I've had a thing for. And still do have a thing for. *grins* Ian still lives in Seattle, and we've been talking about getting together.

Speaking of talking, I spent hours this morning chatting with him, and I think this could actually work out to be a very good thing. In fact, I'm positive this is going to be a good thing.

14 January 2010

Ugh. Just... ugh.

Joy of joys, I had a gallbladder attack. Ended up spending most of the night in hospital (oh, so much fun...) and really ought to get to bed now.